How To Actually Avoid Cattiness

I think it's pretty fair to say we've all dealt with our fair share of cattiness in our time, whether we realized it or not. It doesn't matter if you're in high school (bless your soul), college, or the real world, there will always be those individuals who resemble cats— slyly spiteful and malicious. At least that is according to one of the Merriam-Webster Dictionary's definitions of the word (sorry, I'm a dog lover). Merriam-Webster's other definition, the one I'm actually referring to, describes cattiness as an adjective meaning "unkind or critical," a combination of traits I've learned to avoid like the plague.

Speak your mind. Politely.

While it's extremely important to speak up when someone or something is bothering you, you want to make sure you do it appropriately and politely. Did your roommate forget to clean the bathroom when it was their turn? Remind them! Chances are they forgot! Did a text upset you? Ask the sender about it! Maybe you didn't read it in the tone they meant it (happens all the time)! Point being: the only way to fix something is to be open about it. If you don't try to talk about the things that bother or upset you, you'll be harboring all that negativity, which could turn into cattiness.

Don't be passive-aggressive and avoid passive-aggressors.

Personally, this is one of my biggest pet peeves and it goes back to my first suggestion to speak your mind. We're all mature enough to be able to speak our minds in a positive way in order to solve our problems. Sending the infamous "K." text or ignoring people isn't a way to go about making a situation better. Nine times out of ten passive-aggressiveness makes matters worse. So be vocal with your worries, concerns, and annoyances and only surround yourself with people who will do the same.

Steer clear of people who only seem to bad-mouth others.

Not only do you not need (or want) any of that negativity in your life, you also don't want to be the one they are bad-mouthing in the future so keep them an arms length away or you'll probably find yourself a target of his or her next verbal attack.

Surround yourself with people who allow you to be yourself.

If you can't be yourself around people because you're worried about what they'll think, you probably don't want to be their friend anyway because they're catty and you're special. They're missing out on how awesome you are so it's their loss if they think they're too "cool" for you (what does that word even mean anyway?). You're already better than them anyway because you choose not to be catty.