What Do You Really Want In The New Year?


It’s that time of the year. Resolution time. Fitness gurus tell you, gyms tell you, clothing stores tell you, cellphone retailers tell you...well, just about everyone and everything in the commercial realm capitalizes on the idea of New Year’s resolutions with things to sell and plans to lock you into. Sure, it’s great to strive for these goals, but at what point are you sacrificing what you really want for what you think you’re supposed to want? Sure a closet full of new clothes, more toned abs, and a brand new phone would all be great things...but are these things what your heart truly desires?

If you’re anything like me, they’re not. That’s not to say I don’t like any of these things or that I think they’re bad resolutions. In fact, if they are your resolutions I think it’s amazing!

So, maybe I will eventually aspire to have that perfect body and killer closet, but I’d like to believe there’s more to New Year’s resolutions than things we can buy, pounds we can lose, and calories we can count.

What would happen if we all shut our eyes and ears to the outside world for just a second and were just alone with our own thoughts? Maybe we would get to the root of what it is we really desire and yearn for in this next chapter of our lives. If the New Year is your ultimate “clean slate” you owe it to yourself to really put yourself and your desires first. Not the desires we are conditioned to have.

Maybe you have a journal you’ve been wanting to fill up with your thoughts, big and small. Maybe you have been meaning to reconnect with that friend from high school but just haven’t had the guts to do it yet. Maybe this is the year you really focus on your savings account. Maybe you want to perform one random act of kindness each day for people you know and don’t know, alike. Or maybe you do want to commit to a healthier lifestyle.

The point isn’t what you’re making your New Year's resolutions. It’s about who you’re making them for and why you’re making them.

When we simply write out a list of the things we think we should do and don’t really and truly want for ourselves, we seldom experience success. A feeling of obligation towards resolutions from the outside world rarely breeds positive, sustainable change.

So write down your resolutions, but make sure they’re really yours. Committing to what you want in the New Year is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.