How To Make Your Own Safe Space


Ever since I was born, I have had a space to myself. It was always a place where I could go when I didn't want to do anything with other people. As I grew up, my room became more and more of a place that I depended on. It's healthy to have a space to yourself: a place you can run to, hide, and be 100% yourself. And to do so, you must make your space safe for you.

Decorate how you like.

Realistically, you will be spending a considerable amount of time in your room. It helps if you are welcomed by your favorite colors on the wall, pictures, and a fluffy blanket. Things that comfort and please you visually will catch your eye as soon as you walk through the door and fill your heart with light. Also, keeping the room somewhat tidy doesn't hurt.

Establish boundaries.

This mostly applies to those spaces that you share with other people, like dorm rooms. Let your roommate(s) know that there are certain things of yours that you can't touch and would like to remain only yours. Limit the amount of traffic that comes into your space. If your room turns into the new group hangout spot, you can expect that you might have to find a new safe space because yours will be taken. The earlier you demand that people respect and acknowledge your safe space, the better you will fare in the long run.

Emphasize the areas you need most.

If you know that sleeping is a major comfort for you, you'll be more inclined to focus on the bed and not the window furnishings. If you really like to watch TV, your entertainment center will have a lot of your focus. Pay close attention to beefing up the areas that mean more to you. It'll make the areas where you spend a lot of time the most enjoyable.

Everyone has their own space, whether it is a dorm room, an apartment, or a house. Making it safe for yourself is paramount to mental health. Having go-to self-care plans are always beneficial, but you can't always go for a drive down the highway or call that one person. Having a place where you can go and just be yourself is something you can always fall back on. Make your space your own.