What Does Wellness Look Like?

Wellness is a very personal experience. It is centering of mind, body and spirit–an internal process. When exploring what feeds your feeling of joy, realize that nobody else has the power to control your learning, growth, denial, awakening, or avoidance. We are able to give only from what we have and, if that is misery, we offer sadness. If we have a joyful heart, we are able to offer positive energy. The concept is pretty simple, really.

The difficult part is threefold. It involves:

  • understanding what we are conveying
  • becoming aware of what we have to offer
  • putting energy into becoming true to ourselves

The process of learning about our true self can begin by taking an honest look at the types of people we attract and accept into our inner circle.

Healing is a personal experience. 

We each heal at our own rate. We avoid, deny, accept, view, evaluate, and maybe even grow, all at a rate comfortable for ourselves. The wise ones associate with others who facilitate fulfillment of their potential. We make promises to ourselves and then set out to either distract from or fulfill our potential. 

Once ready to embark upon a healing journey, we ask:

  • Who do I attract?
  • Who do I accept into my inner circle?
  • Who do I trust?

Sometimes the answers disappoint us as they flag that we might be hiding from ourselves by ignoring inner wisdom. If we feel safe and strong we muster the courage to ask ourselves: "Why?"

This begins soul searching. And is not just for the neighborhood yoga instructor; rather, it is essential for healthy relationships–personal and professional. In fact, when we consider 'leader vs. manager', we discover that leaders search for truth and help guide using wisdom and insight, while managers tend to intimidate and try to control using fear. People at home, at the grocery store, and throughout our daily lives fall into groups and the most powerful and attractive individuals are leaders, by nature, who have mastered the art of team playing, as well as of leading from behind.

When asking, "Which category or categories do I fall into?" examine your behavior:

  • Do I fully address questions posed when others seek clarification of me, or do I attempt to humiliate others for asking?
  • Do I tend to ignore questions that make me uneasy, or do I honestly self-reflect to seek inner truth?
  • Do positive people seek me out? Do I elect to keep friends close but 'enemies' closer?
  • Do I complain often about my situation? Do I tend to feel abandoned, guilty, fearful, or deserving?
  • If given a choice, do I prefer to shine light into the eyes of others to avoid permitting them to focus on me?

When out of balance internally, we become exhausted. Exhaustion and fatigue may indicate early, middle or late stages of internal imbalance. No matter where the imbalance begins (mind, body or spirit) if sustained, the entire body becomes involved. Sustained imbalance, in later stages, often involves glands, hormonesblood sugar and organ systems.

Achieving internal wellness is a complex process. For some it is less complicated than for others. It takes more energy to hide from one's self than it does to view what "is"and then deciding to take it from there.

Is internal wellness an essential goal? 

Some would say yes while others might disagree. The vote is personal and, in itself, very revealing.


About the Author: Dr. Iankowitz is an ANCC board certified family nurse practitioner, author of Marcy and Her FriendsConversations With Our Daughters, and Tales of The Soil, co-author, editor and ghost writer of several articles and books, founder and owner of Universe' Secretary, founder and director of Holistic and Integrative Healing LLC, and is a certified Reiki practitioner.